Sunday, March 29, 2015

The Bone Collector


I don't know whether to start with just shoot me or don't shoot me.

For I fear I may be belaboring a point here.

And what you thought (or hoped) was ancient history is being dug up again.

But GG just left, finally, two years later, taking most of her gear from the attic.

Books still remain, but all the sporting goods are gone, family china, boxes of clothes, rocks, bottles,  feathers and shells..

She's moving to Atlanta to be near her GF.

This has been years in the making.

Probably a much more sensible way to have a relationship. I'm like come on over, oh I like you, stay.

And though we have had many awkward moments together, she's still my first person to call in any medical emergency, when I have an urge to eat Thai and go to Home Depot ( these things may not go together for everyone but they always worked for us) or for a little garden inspiration.

So I will miss her again.Or still.

But she has had a tough time of it in the last two years and I cheer her on for her bravery and persistence, her ability to laugh at herself and make me laugh and her persistent bossiness.

And I wish her much happiness.

In the words of one of my favorite  Irish singers, Lisa Hannigan "Safe Travels Don't Die".


28 comments:

  1. Oh Miss Jane....I just saw the label to this post! I tell in your voice that you will miss her terribly but she can still be the first person you call when you need someone. So long in distance but not in heart. ♥

    and . . . you happen to have a blogging friend who just moved to GA! (not too far from Atlanta) If you take a road trip and need a place to stay you are always welcome here. xo

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  2. Oh thank you Sarah. I will need to be a bigger person that I am right now to make that road trip...but never say never.

    And I would love to stay in that beautiful house of yours...and have some face time.

    xo J

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  3. Your heart is enormous. It takes a strong woman to wish a former love well, and you have consistently done that for two years. Eah little thing is an arrow to ypur heart, but you remain strong a focused. Good things will cme ... we just don't yet know when.

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    1. Thanks webb. Good things have already come but I look forward to more:-)

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  4. Oh my dear, you have such an open generous heart. I'm sorry for the pain this is causing you.

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    1. Thank you Jennifer, I wasn't prepared for the wound reopening. Gawd, healing takes a long time.

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  5. The door closes. Spring is coming. Light of all sorts is around the corner. xoxox.

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  6. very informative post for me as I am always looking for new content that can help me and my knowledge grow better.

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  7. GG is a gift. Like you say " you can run but you can't hide". She'll always be in your life.
    xoxo

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    1. That's a good thought...she finally learned from Tony who had to move to Oregon to stop being in the direct line of duty!

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    2. She'll have to move to Siberia to be completely out of 'the line of duty' !
      Atlanta's just a puddle jump!

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  8. You are very special, I hop you realize that. I'm sure GG does and is a better person for having had you in her life.

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    1. Hugs Amelia, I think we would all agree I am a better, stronger person for having all of you in my life.

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  9. All I can add is a hug ... (((hug)))) ... there, is that better?

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  10. I know what you are going through. After ten years mine still has some of her items in the closet, calls me nearly daily, and stops by several times a week for dinner.

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    1. 10 years??? How are YOU doing? Have you been able to move on?

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    2. Sorry, I didn't mean to scare you. I'm ok. I think sometimes certain people will always have a big effect on your heart no matter the passage of time. And that's not really a bad thing. It only proves how deeply you've loved. Clearly you are a woman who has. Best wishes. mj

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    3. Thank you, I didn't mean to overreact, but I could see myself there and while that's not a bad thing, it felt overwhelming. I usually try and stay friends with my exes, I figure if you put that much into a relationship for so many years, unless someone did someone wrong, it's worth while scavenging for the gold that's left behind. xo

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  11. Mizz Jane,
    What they said. Not only are you strong and brave, but honest, fierce in a kind way and Ethically True North. And a very class act as well. Peace be with you, (((((Jane)))))

    Diane in Denver

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    1. Wow, thanks Diane from Denver. I strive to be ethically true, but sometimes the compass spins in the opposite direction:-)

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  12. Oops, used wrong account; think perhaps I should consider opening up a business in New Delhi!
    Carry on, Jane, strong and true.
    D in D

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  13. Sending virtual hugs to you and to GG because I know she is going to miss you too. You're quite unforgettable Jane ;)

    Lots of love, xoxo
    Elle

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    1. Thank you my sweetness. We're still missing you in the hood too. Apparently you're almost irreplaceable as a roommate!

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  14. It must be difficult for you Jane. Hope GG will be happy in Atlanta.

    Wishing you a wonderful Easter and sending a big hug.

    Madelief x

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  15. I'm awestruck by your attitude; I never managed to be so gracious or generous. Big hugs.... x

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