Sunday, June 17, 2012
Reflections On What Was And What Could Have Been
We have two teens helping out at the shop this spring/summer. One is home from her first year in college, the other has just graduated from high school.
Both are confident in manner, self respecting and motivated with wicked work ethics.
Both seem to have close relationships with their fathers.
Is there any connection? I don't know but I suspect there might be.
My father, whose nickname was Frosty, was as alpha a male as you could wish to meet.
My mother gracefully accepted beta status, I fought him every step of the way.
In retrospect I admit to being a big PITA ( pain in the ass, more flower shop speak).
In retrospect I bet he would too. I now recognize his flaws as mine.
I wish we could do it again from a different perspective. Less struggle, more acceptance.
But I did take away a love of gardening, a love of the absurd and the ability to throw a party.
And I also learned to give to others, both time and money when possible, be there for your friends and that when it's time to put the drink down, put it down. Just walk away.
So today I'll both miss him and honor him by doing what he taught me to do best. Yard work. Off to the garden.